Behaviour of people largely originates from their background!

I was about to abandon this theory but I was happy I didn't. There is an age old hypothesis that the behaviour of people reflects their background, lifestyle etc. I was quite curious to know about this and over the time period, I tried to understand myself and tried my best to practise myself to null this hypothesis. Of course, I do not need to have any statistics here to prove that I have nearly done it. But as I have mentioned it before, that hypothesis still holds true. However, in my experience, the hypothesis might fail for a short term but it would hold true for long term. No matter how the person raises his/her education, how the person experiences changes in his/her lifestyle (which may be due to living in different society), if the person tries to behave different than the normal then it is no other than brushing the matter. And this brushing will always give a look as if it is his/her real behaviour. Here, I am not trying to advocate a good or bad behaviour. But it is rational that a person will always want to show his/her good behaviour except in few cases which are not subjects of this discussion.

I am being brought up into such a family that rarely interacts with another world though having a sea of relatives within it. I used to think that I could change over the period of time with my development in the thoughts, of course to be overridden by the anxiety to have those changes in my behaviour, along with the raises in my education, social values and norms and understanding behavioural society. Here, I am not trying to say bad or good changes and also I may be ignoring several other drivers here. I would like to excuse for these as I am not a socialist and understanding these is really difficult for my little mind. I must admit that I have changed a lot from the time when I have been able to think independently. Over the period of time, I tried my best to interact with others with a behaviour different than my original. I had tried my best to act differently so as the other person would not take it otherwise. I had tried my best to be conscious about others' need rather than mine so as the other one would not take it otherwise. I had tried my best to behave like a gentle man (though I was not) so that the other person would take me as a gentle person. Ironically, these were reciprocated in the same manner. But these usually lasted for a short term. In the longer term, probably there are some other drivers that I could not understand properly, affect it and these actions usually have a peak. Probably this is the reason that a person in a short term always looks good but in longer term always ends up peaking high. One may argue it is not always and probably it is not true for some serious relationship. I am not discussing about any serious relationship here and this discussion probably needs to be read for a relationship in general.

What would affect such a peak? Probably this is something that requires more scrutinizing. But in my experiences,it is the background how he/she has been brought up. The rate at which one reduces his/her anxiety to interact during every step in the life probably reduces him/her from the brushing. But to one's dismay, the higher the anxiety reaches, the higher the result would reverse. At this point, probably one can see him/her displaying an act that belongs to his/her background. Probably, he/she would not be able to realize it with the anxiety reaching at peak. Rather one needs to reduce his/her anxiety from the peak in order to realize it and if his/her anxiety starts declining, then it would not take much time for him/her to realize it.

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